Be creative on communication.
Try role play with your wife/husband.
Be creative on celebration.
Try to watch 3 great movies or have a big big buffet.
Be creative on interaction.
Can have fun to mix hug and judo.
Be creative on position.
You can have different feeling.
Remember to smile and laugh
when create a joyful moment.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Friday, September 19, 2008
Hallo! Guten morgan!
In german, "Hallo! Guten morgan!" means "Hello! Good Morning!"
Hallo means Hello.
Guten means good.
Morgan means morning.
When we come across with a friend or someone I know, we would say "Hallo!" for informal greeting. If we come across a stranger, we would say "Guten Tag!" for formal greeting.
Tag means day. Therefore, Guten Tag means good day.
How about to say "See you tomorrow" in german? "Bis morgan". Morgan here means tomorrow. Yes, it is the same word for morning. "Bis morgan" literally means "Til tomorrow".
When we say goodbye, there is a formal way and informal way. "Auf Wiedersehen!" for formal way. "Tschüs!" for informal way. Of course, we can say "Bis später!" for "See you later!". ü sounds like 淤泥的淤 in putonghua. ä sounds like e. When say Tschüs! to whom understand putonghua, don't break it into 2 separated sounds; otherwise, it sounds like foul language - 去死。
Hallo means Hello.
Guten means good.
Morgan means morning.
When we come across with a friend or someone I know, we would say "Hallo!" for informal greeting. If we come across a stranger, we would say "Guten Tag!" for formal greeting.
Tag means day. Therefore, Guten Tag means good day.
How about to say "See you tomorrow" in german? "Bis morgan". Morgan here means tomorrow. Yes, it is the same word for morning. "Bis morgan" literally means "Til tomorrow".
When we say goodbye, there is a formal way and informal way. "Auf Wiedersehen!" for formal way. "Tschüs!" for informal way. Of course, we can say "Bis später!" for "See you later!". ü sounds like 淤泥的淤 in putonghua. ä sounds like e. When say Tschüs! to whom understand putonghua, don't break it into 2 separated sounds; otherwise, it sounds like foul language - 去死。
life is a personal art. marriage is an art of two persons.
Marriage is the joining of two people -
the union of two hearts.
It lives on the love
you give each other
and never grows old,
but thrives on the joy
of each new day...
Marriage is love.
May you always be blessed
in your hearts
with the wonder of your marriage.
May you always be able to talk things over,
to confide,
to laugh with each other
and enjoy life together,
to share moments
of quiet peace
when the day is done.
May you be blessed
with a lifetime of happiness.
~jill Ryynanen
Friday, August 15, 2008
Communication between sexes
It is an interesting topic. I think almost nobody can avoid communication between sexes. There may be many fantasy when you start love affair with the one. However, someone finds that it becomes a nightmare when miscommunication is encountered.
Most of us think that girls are emotion-oriented. May do something emotionally. Make a decision emotionally. And even choose a guy emotionally. However, in the bottom of their heart, relationship, stability, fun are in the top priority. Feeling is basically a measurement of relationship. They normally have some closed friends always being together. They share everything by talking. Most of them think when they talk and then stop thinking when they don't talk. Of course, they would talk to themselves. When they talk, their feeling is released. Grieve is relieved. They feel comfortable after conversation is completed. You may think they are weak. However, you would find that their problems are not yet solved after talking. They can keep on going. Therefore, if they find a good listener, they can face any problem in daily life even without solving them.
Most of boys are classified as playing-oriented. They just love to play and bear less responsibility. In fact, boys and men are looking for satisfaction. They want to fight for something, build up something, or make an achievement. They need to tackle all the problems in different levels. It is just like hunters in the Stone Age. They need the real actions to solve all real problems. Feeling and emotion is unnecessary. Contrary, girls and women need to take care babies especially when the babies cannot talk to them. They must sense babies' feeling. Therefore they are sensitive to others' gesture, body movement and voice.
Then, when girls are talking to boys, boys don't know what girls need. Always go to solve the problem without taking care girls' feeling. Girls may think boys are rude because they don't know emotion or feeling sometimes is not in consideration for solving problem. This big difference of the need is caused by big difference between two perspectives. When they lost patience, the communication would break down. Hence, the first step is to bear in mind that everyone is not the same. He or she always don't think in a way like mine.
Most of us think that girls are emotion-oriented. May do something emotionally. Make a decision emotionally. And even choose a guy emotionally. However, in the bottom of their heart, relationship, stability, fun are in the top priority. Feeling is basically a measurement of relationship. They normally have some closed friends always being together. They share everything by talking. Most of them think when they talk and then stop thinking when they don't talk. Of course, they would talk to themselves. When they talk, their feeling is released. Grieve is relieved. They feel comfortable after conversation is completed. You may think they are weak. However, you would find that their problems are not yet solved after talking. They can keep on going. Therefore, if they find a good listener, they can face any problem in daily life even without solving them.
Most of boys are classified as playing-oriented. They just love to play and bear less responsibility. In fact, boys and men are looking for satisfaction. They want to fight for something, build up something, or make an achievement. They need to tackle all the problems in different levels. It is just like hunters in the Stone Age. They need the real actions to solve all real problems. Feeling and emotion is unnecessary. Contrary, girls and women need to take care babies especially when the babies cannot talk to them. They must sense babies' feeling. Therefore they are sensitive to others' gesture, body movement and voice.
Then, when girls are talking to boys, boys don't know what girls need. Always go to solve the problem without taking care girls' feeling. Girls may think boys are rude because they don't know emotion or feeling sometimes is not in consideration for solving problem. This big difference of the need is caused by big difference between two perspectives. When they lost patience, the communication would break down. Hence, the first step is to bear in mind that everyone is not the same. He or she always don't think in a way like mine.
Friday, March 14, 2008
Sprachenfähigkeit wird entweder verbessert oder verschlechtert sich
Wir wissen, daß das über 90% von Hong-Kong Bürgern chinesisch sind deren Muttersprache kantonesisch ist. Wir haben sehr kleine Wahrscheinlichkeit, Ausländer zu treffen. Wir haben nicht noch unser Englisch verbessert und auch Ausländer bitten, kantonesisches zu erlernen. Folglich wird der Beweggrund der Hong-Kong Bürger, zum von von Englisch zu erlernen, das wohl ist, sehr niedrig. Wir verursachen nicht ein englisches Klima im täglichen Leben und erlernen nicht Englisch aktiv. Unser Englisch ist sich verschlechtert zweifellos. Es ist dem Fall ziemlich ähnlich, der, nachdem ich weniger Gespräch mit meinem Taiwan Freund hatte, meine Mandarine besonders auf dem Aussprache schlechter erhält. Als wir uns wieder trafen, fand sie, daß ich nicht in der Mandarine sowie vorher sprechen kann. Es ist ziemlich frei, daß Sprachenfähigkeit entweder verbessert wird oder verschlechtert sich. (...)
Monday, January 21, 2008
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
My Schedule
My schedule must be held by myself. It cannot be held by others. It is because everyone has its own schedule and they have not much time to take care your schedule. That is why I cannot depend others to take care my schedule. I am in charge of my schedule and I would fight for it, fight for my own interest.
Sorry, I have to fight for my own interest.
Patience has quota. When it is out of quota, there will be no merce.
Waiting is extravaganza to me.
Time is always running out.
The power of execution decides whether the company is alive or dead.
You should know what I mean.
Right?
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Monday, December 10, 2007
Monday, December 03, 2007
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
No two identical persons
If we are looking for the life partner, are we looking for who is identical to us? Say, both of us have same habit, same interests, same thought and the same language. It could help communication when using the same language. No obstacles on understanding each other if we have same thought all the time. Same habit and interests would make us as twins. Hey, is it another me? Is it good for us to love "ourselves"? Are we looking for "another half"?
In the most of the time, there are no two identical persons in a relationship. Does it mean that our life partners would be totally different from us? Two persons are from different worlds. Then it is hard for communication and mutual understanding. It is far more different to have mutual appreciation. What is the force to pull us together?
In the most of the time, there are no two identical persons in a relationship. Does it mean that our life partners would be totally different from us? Two persons are from different worlds. Then it is hard for communication and mutual understanding. It is far more different to have mutual appreciation. What is the force to pull us together?
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Friday, October 12, 2007
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Promise is promise
One night I asked my friend for help. After a long discussion, there is no solution. He promised to take a look on the cause of the problem. However, when I met him, he had something to do and chit chat around. After a while, he disappeared. Oh no! He left me alone?! It sounds like his promise go in vain. Promise becomes just some soothing words.
Many friends and colleagues said that things always change. Our power is limited, many things are not under control. It is a promise today but may not be kept tomorrow. Why make such promise? What is promise?
Promise can be for others and also for ourselves. It appears before action. Before making promise, we always evaluate the feasibility. Nobody can be 100% sure before he makes promise. If it happens, why we need to make promise? From this point of view, promise is a clear declaration of will, to make something happen. It is expected to be a process of creation. It is what we want. We can have satisfaction, achievement when promise is kept. It gives us the feeling of safety. If we observe our society with our heart, we can find promises everywhere.
Many friends and colleagues said that things always change. Our power is limited, many things are not under control. It is a promise today but may not be kept tomorrow. Why make such promise? What is promise?
Promise can be for others and also for ourselves. It appears before action. Before making promise, we always evaluate the feasibility. Nobody can be 100% sure before he makes promise. If it happens, why we need to make promise? From this point of view, promise is a clear declaration of will, to make something happen. It is expected to be a process of creation. It is what we want. We can have satisfaction, achievement when promise is kept. It gives us the feeling of safety. If we observe our society with our heart, we can find promises everywhere.
Monday, August 20, 2007
Cloudy Day
German: Guten Morgen.
English: Good morning.
German: Hallo. Es ist ein bewölkter Tag, nicht wahr?
English: Hello. It is a cloudy day, isn't it?
English: Good morning.
German: Hallo. Es ist ein bewölkter Tag, nicht wahr?
English: Hello. It is a cloudy day, isn't it?
Friday, August 17, 2007
Father and Son
Promise is a promise. He promised his son to join marathon together even his son cannot walk. They run together. They swim together. They ride together. Never leave him alone. Never let his son feel handicapped. They create power together. They inspire other people together.
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
FW:Facts you should know about men
1. Men like to barbecue. Men will cook if danger is involved.
2. Men who have pierced ears are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry.
3. Marrying a divorced man is ecologically responsible. In a world where there are more women than men, it pays to recycle.
4. Men are very confident people. My husband is so confident that when he watches sports on television, he thinks that if he concentrates he can help his team. If the team is in trouble, he coaches the players from our living room, and if they're really in trouble, I have to get off the phone in case they call him.
5. Men like phones with lots of buttons. It makes them feel important.
6. Men love to be the first to read the newspaper in the morning. Not being the first is upsetting to their psyches.
7. All men are afraid of eyelash curlers. I sleep with one under my pillow, instead of a gun.
8. A good place to meet a man is at the dry cleaner. These men usually have jobs and bathe.
9. All men hate to hear "We need to talk about our relationship." These seven words strike fear in the heart of even General Schwarzkopf.
10. Men are sensitive in strange ways. If a man has built a fire and the last log does not burn, he will take it personally.
11. Men have an easier time buying bathing suits. Women have two types: depressing and more depressing. Men have two types: nerdy and not nerdy.
12. Men have higher body temperatures than women. If your heating goes out in winter, I recommend sleeping next to a man. Men are like portable heaters that snore.
13. Women take clothing much more seriously than men. I've never seen a man walk into a party and say "Oh, my God, I'm so embarrassed; get me out of here. There's another man wearing a black tuxedo."
14. Most men hate to shop. That's why the men's department is usually on the first floor of a department store, two inches from the door.
15. If a man prepares dinner for you and the salad contains three or more types of lettuce, he is serious.
16. If you're dating a man who you think might be "Mr. Right," if he a) got older, b) got a new job, or c) visited a psychiatrist, you are in for a nasty surprise. The cocoon-to-butterfly theory only works on cocoons and butterflies.
17. No man is charming all of the time. Even Cary Grant is on record saying he wished he could be Cary Grant.
18. When four or more men get together, they talk about sports.
19. When four or more women get together, they talk about men.
20. Men are less sentimental than women. No man has ever seen the movie THE WAY WE WERE twice, voluntarily.
21. Most women are introspective: "Am I in love? Am I emotionally and creatively fulfilled?" Most men are outrospective: "Did my team win? How's my car?"
22. If a man says, "I'll call you," and he doesn't, he didn't forget... he didn't lose your number... he didn't die. He just didn't want to call you.
23. Getting rid of a man without hurting his masculinity is a problem. "Get out" and "I never want to see you again" might sound like a challenge. If you want to get rid of a man, I suggest saying, "I love you... I want to marry you... I want to have your children." Sometimes they leave skid marks.
24. Men are self-confident because they grow up identifying with super-heroes. Women have bad self-images because they grow up identifying with Barbie.
25. Male menopause is a lot more fun than female menopause. With female menopause you gain weight and get hot flashes. Male menopause - you get to date young girls and drive motorcycles.
26. Men forget everything; women remember everything.
27. That's why men need instant replays in sports. They've already forgotten what happened
2. Men who have pierced ears are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry.
3. Marrying a divorced man is ecologically responsible. In a world where there are more women than men, it pays to recycle.
4. Men are very confident people. My husband is so confident that when he watches sports on television, he thinks that if he concentrates he can help his team. If the team is in trouble, he coaches the players from our living room, and if they're really in trouble, I have to get off the phone in case they call him.
5. Men like phones with lots of buttons. It makes them feel important.
6. Men love to be the first to read the newspaper in the morning. Not being the first is upsetting to their psyches.
7. All men are afraid of eyelash curlers. I sleep with one under my pillow, instead of a gun.
8. A good place to meet a man is at the dry cleaner. These men usually have jobs and bathe.
9. All men hate to hear "We need to talk about our relationship." These seven words strike fear in the heart of even General Schwarzkopf.
10. Men are sensitive in strange ways. If a man has built a fire and the last log does not burn, he will take it personally.
11. Men have an easier time buying bathing suits. Women have two types: depressing and more depressing. Men have two types: nerdy and not nerdy.
12. Men have higher body temperatures than women. If your heating goes out in winter, I recommend sleeping next to a man. Men are like portable heaters that snore.
13. Women take clothing much more seriously than men. I've never seen a man walk into a party and say "Oh, my God, I'm so embarrassed; get me out of here. There's another man wearing a black tuxedo."
14. Most men hate to shop. That's why the men's department is usually on the first floor of a department store, two inches from the door.
15. If a man prepares dinner for you and the salad contains three or more types of lettuce, he is serious.
16. If you're dating a man who you think might be "Mr. Right," if he a) got older, b) got a new job, or c) visited a psychiatrist, you are in for a nasty surprise. The cocoon-to-butterfly theory only works on cocoons and butterflies.
17. No man is charming all of the time. Even Cary Grant is on record saying he wished he could be Cary Grant.
18. When four or more men get together, they talk about sports.
19. When four or more women get together, they talk about men.
20. Men are less sentimental than women. No man has ever seen the movie THE WAY WE WERE twice, voluntarily.
21. Most women are introspective: "Am I in love? Am I emotionally and creatively fulfilled?" Most men are outrospective: "Did my team win? How's my car?"
22. If a man says, "I'll call you," and he doesn't, he didn't forget... he didn't lose your number... he didn't die. He just didn't want to call you.
23. Getting rid of a man without hurting his masculinity is a problem. "Get out" and "I never want to see you again" might sound like a challenge. If you want to get rid of a man, I suggest saying, "I love you... I want to marry you... I want to have your children." Sometimes they leave skid marks.
24. Men are self-confident because they grow up identifying with super-heroes. Women have bad self-images because they grow up identifying with Barbie.
25. Male menopause is a lot more fun than female menopause. With female menopause you gain weight and get hot flashes. Male menopause - you get to date young girls and drive motorcycles.
26. Men forget everything; women remember everything.
27. That's why men need instant replays in sports. They've already forgotten what happened
Learn putonghua well
I had a coffee and a chat with friends. We were talking about his boss who is not keen in his career and just focus on the stock market. My friend, as a lazy subordinate, go to study putonghua suddenly. He kept asking me how to learn it well. The most critical problem is that he does not know to how to read it correctly.
In fact, when we learn any language, we still follow the old rules. Listen more, speak more and write more. It is lucky that the official written form of our mother language is same as the one of putonghua. We should save effort on it compared with the foreigners. However, there had been some foreign professors who can teach us Chinese culture in fluent putonghua. Their putonghua level is much higher than ours.
In order to speak putonghua well, we must go back to the written form as the starting point. The second step is to solve the reading problem. Of course, dictionary can save us. Besides that it can help us if we use pinyin input method to enter Chinese characters. It can keep to train myself when I do not speak in putonghua. However, the pronunciation cannot be kept because it is not strictly required in the input method. Thus it is better to keep reading it.
The third step is to listen more. For example, CCTV, they speak in Beijing version of putonghua which is the base reference of the official putonghua. At the same time, we can learn the vocabularies. It is similar to listen BBC news to learn English. Both agencies have high standard on pronunciation and word choosing. Remember that we have different vocabulary set even though we write Chinese characters. For example, hotel (酒店 vs 飯店),mobile phone (移動電話 vs 流動電話), taxi (公共汽車 vs 出租車).
In fact, when we learn any language, we still follow the old rules. Listen more, speak more and write more. It is lucky that the official written form of our mother language is same as the one of putonghua. We should save effort on it compared with the foreigners. However, there had been some foreign professors who can teach us Chinese culture in fluent putonghua. Their putonghua level is much higher than ours.
In order to speak putonghua well, we must go back to the written form as the starting point. The second step is to solve the reading problem. Of course, dictionary can save us. Besides that it can help us if we use pinyin input method to enter Chinese characters. It can keep to train myself when I do not speak in putonghua. However, the pronunciation cannot be kept because it is not strictly required in the input method. Thus it is better to keep reading it.
The third step is to listen more. For example, CCTV, they speak in Beijing version of putonghua which is the base reference of the official putonghua. At the same time, we can learn the vocabularies. It is similar to listen BBC news to learn English. Both agencies have high standard on pronunciation and word choosing. Remember that we have different vocabulary set even though we write Chinese characters. For example, hotel (酒店 vs 飯店),mobile phone (移動電話 vs 流動電話), taxi (公共汽車 vs 出租車).
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